The importance of mentors

The closer I am getting to some idea of a career, the more I think about what differentiates me from people who already have one. One of the most important things that help people advance in a career, in my opinion, is a mentor.

Mentors are valuable no matter what career you choose to pursue. They can provide not just networking opportunities and advice on how to climb your desired career ladder, but also a glimpse of what a career like theirs leads to, the light at the end of the tunnel (or at least the light a little further down the line). Last year I heard a talk from one of the first female US higher court judges, and she mentioned some of her most important mentors. Not just women, not just judges, but very important to her was the influence of her dad, and later the guidance of the bosses she worked under. Everyone can be a stepping stone if you value their opinion and incorporate the advice that works for you.

Everyone gets some help along the way, and most people are happy to help

Another PhD student from my lab is now in her dream career because one of her supervisors was also her ideal mentor. Her background is medical, a degree system wherein mentors are mandatory, so she started off seeking a strong role model. I have no such background, so I’ve only just started thinking about needing a mentor, and what makes a good mentor. Hence this post.

Ideally, the best mentors are on the career track you want to be on. This might be difficult if (like me) you’re not in that world yet, but people are always happy to talk about themselves and give advice if you approach them in a respectful and open manner (and maybe buy them coffee or something). That doesn’t mean harassing Oprah on social media, but sending a nice, gushy email with a simple question to someone a bit more available can’t hurt.

In the writing world, agents and editors can often be mentors to new writers. This is one of the things that self-published authors may lack, but other, more senior self-published writers may help them along instead. If you look past the surface, most career tracks are full of people who want to help and want you to succeed, even if you may end up being a competitor down the line. Sometimes mentors don’t even need to have jobs directly related to what you want to do. Anyone can be a mentor, often starting with your parents when you’re young, a teacher at school, or a good friend.

The point of this post is to acknowledge that we can’t do everything alone, and its no use reinventing the wheel when there are lots of people out there willing to share their knowledge. So let them. Identify mentors or potential mentors in your own life, and have a talk with them, ask them how they got to where they are today, what their philosophy on life is, whatever you want to know. People generally love to be asked about their accomplishments. Use that to your advantage and listen.

Owls make great mentors

Finally, if any of you more senior bloggers who happen to read this post want to give me some mentorship, please do ^_^.

Chuck Wendig’s Flash Fiction Challenge

In the spirit of writing more this year, I have started taking part in Friday Phrases, a weekly 140-character story challenge based on a small prompt (as my Twitter stream testifies). It’s great fun and I recommend everyone try it. Now I have decided to take part in another challenge, set by Chuck Wendig, to write a piece of flash fiction (maximum 1000 words) based on a D&D character website.
This is my prompt:

CALLOUS HUMAN WIZARD FROM AN ILLUSORY FOREST WHO SAW THEIR WHOLE FAMILY CONSUMED BY A GELATINOUS CUBE

 

And this is my story based on it:

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A cocoon year

Happy new year!
It has again been too long since I last posted to this blog, but instead I have managed to submit my PhD thesis, so I guess that makes up for it. At the moment I’m waiting to find out when my final examination is going to be, and trying to figure out what to do next. In short, I am at the start of a year in flux. Hopefully, at the end of the year, preferably sooner, I will have emerged from my cocoon of career contemplation with a solid plan if not an actual job.
In the meantime, one would think that I will be able to update this blog at a much more regular basis, and easily write a book with all this loose time on my hands. And yet, I have written more, much more, when I was super busy, working on other things. Something has shifted now that writing is no longer a distraction but a focus, a goal. This is exactly why people tell you not to quit your day job.
I’m not sure what the psychological processes are underlying this difficulty to focus, probably fear of failure, heightened expectations, some form of imposter syndrome. After all, I may be a writer, but I feel that I cannot call myself an author until people actually pay me money for my work.
I have no idea how things will work out; I may write a readable book this year, I may not. I may get too scared and run back to research for safety, or some entirely other career might cross my path. For now, I will enjoy the time I have staying with my SO, and write some crap.

Keep you posted!